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The fruit of forgiveness.

John 10:10

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

When the enemy comes to kill steal and destroy it’s not about him destroying our circumstances. Like I had an Xbox and somebody stole it, or my cell phone came up missing. The enemy comes to steal our attitude and our resolve to live in purity, righteousness, and self-control. He wants us to measure our unfavorable circumstances and then disqualify ourselves and Jesus so we quit our assignment in the Lord.

The enemies primary strategy is to accuse you before the father and to yourself. He also accuses the father before you.

1 Peter 5:8

Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

The belief that our assignment is simply one thing, one job, one ministry and that it must be large and powerful to be important, will only lead us to a place of false expectations and perpetual disappointment. The enemy wants us to live with false expectations so when the circumstances don’t play out in the time or the way that we anticipate we will give up on ourselves and the Lord and enter into spiritual coasting, which results in spiritual boredom.

Our assignment shifts and changes through all seasons in our lives. In some seasons we focus more on our family, children. In other seasons we focus more on friends and community, and in other seasons we focus more on ministry and outreach. It’s never one or the other and the degrees of each one varies depending on where you are in life.

5 negative life stories that shaped my view of the father.

Moments that mark our lives. All of our lives have moments that mark us, both positive and negative trends, over time they shape our worldview. They shape how we think, about places, friends, family and God. We can identify the moments in our lives because they are clear to us, we remember them well. The place, the feeling the time of day. These are moments we sometimes need to revisit as the Lord highlights them

1. Age 6-7 My grandfather pulled my hair (The Father is not Safe)

I loved my grandfather, he lived across the street from me…

  • Build stuff
  • Fix stuff
  • Let us use his driveway to play
  • Sang songs to us
  • Did camp fires
  • Let me help him gardenMy grandfather was typically a safe place for me in my early childhood, however one day he must have been having a bad day one day…

2. Early Childhood My parents were emotionally unstable (The father is Angry)

Both of my parents were sexually abused, my dad at the age of 4 by an uncle and my mom from the age of 11 to 13 by an in-law

  • Mental abuse
  • Verbal abuse
  • My dad would call me geek the meek
  • Retards
  • Mother Effers
  • Flying Eff heads

I loved my parents even through the mental and sometimes physical abuse. I could share many stories of how my parents really pulled through some adversity, but they had some obvious character flaws as I was growing my

3. Age 11-12 My grandfather dies (The father Abandons)

It was a normal day, I had woken up early. before everyone else in my family. I stayed in my room lamenting going to school again that day. I hated school. I went to breakfast. I remember people coming into my house, my mom, my dad and my pastor was there. I didn’t think much of it as I was eating a bowl of cereal our pastor informs us that our Grandfather died of a massive heart attack in the middle of the night.

This was the first major loss of my life. It left me with a deep hole and I mourned a long time. My grandfathers death stuck me in a way that I could have never expected in my young life

  • No More building stuff
  • No more fixing stuff
  • No more songs
  • No more gardening
  • No more safe placeLooking back now I love to think of the times that I had with him. I learned an incredible amount from him in a short time. 2 Weeks before he died, he had told my mom that he was surprised at how hard of a worker I was and that he really enjoyed spending time with me.

4. Bullied in School (The father does not protect)

I hated school almost more than everything. I rarely ever got good grades, I was bullied a lot and because of the unstable home environment I was afraid of most adults especially men. There was a trouble kid. I sat next to him in home economics. Sometimes he sat behind mind. Any time the teach was not looking he would punch my arm as hard as he could. Sometimes 3 or 4 times. The other classemates would ignore it. Or he would flick my ears.

  • Punch my arm as hard as he could
  • Sometimes 3 or 4 times
  • Flick my ears
  • I was afraid to stand up for myself
  • As this was happening daily it would fill me with rage.
  • Embarressing
  • Ashamed that I didnt know how to defend myself

Bullying is nothing to scoff at. “Touphen up”, “Fight back”, The peril of bullying is that it is designed by the enemy to destroy lives fully. It will make people draw back, or shrink back in their confidence in life and before the Lord.

5. Age 21-22 Premarital Sex (Lack of maturity)

Between the time of middle school and and hight school graduation I got Saved.

  • After graduation I played in a rock band
  • Had my own apartment
  • Was seeking the lord
  • I quit the band
  • Moved to Missouri
  • My relationship with the Lord was amazing. You could not put a piece of paper in between me and him
  • Prayer, Fasting, Reading the Word, Evangalizing
  • Met Melissa and I knew we were going to get married
  • Started having premarital sex
  • Premarital sex isnt a joke, it is scandolous and it will delay your assignment in the lord.
  • Guys, putting woman in this position of compromise is a direct reflection of your leadership, It actually shows that you are not mature enouph to handle the leadership position in marriage. Being a husband is about leading with honor, dignity and protection

6. Kicked out of Church (God Shames)

7. Almost Divorced (Not worthy of Gods Love)

Zechariah 4

 Then he showed me Joshua the high priest standing before the angel of the Lord, and Satan[a] standing at his right side to accuse him. 2 The Lord said to Satan, “The Lord rebuke you, Satan! The Lord, who has chosen Jerusalem, rebuke you! Is not this man a burning stick snatched from the fire?”

3 Now Joshua was dressed in filthy clothes as he stood before the angel. 4 The angel said to those who were standing before him, “Take off his filthy clothes.”

Then he said to Joshua, “See, I have taken away your sin, and I will put fine garments on you.”

5 Then I said, “Put a clean turban on his head.” So they put a clean turban on his head and clothed him, while the angel of the Lord stood by.

6 The angel of the Lord gave this charge to Joshua: 7 “This is what the Lord Almighty says: ‘If you will walk in obedience to me and keep my requirements, then you will govern my house and have charge of my courts, and I will give you a place among these standing here.

8 “‘Listen, High Priest Joshua, you and your associates seated before you, who are men symbolic of things to come: I am going to bring my servant, the Branch. 9 See, the stone I have set in front of Joshua! There are seven eyes[b] on that one stone, and I will engrave an inscription on it,’ says the Lord Almighty, ‘and I will remove the sin of this land in a single day.

10 “‘In that day each of you will invite your neighbor to sit under your vine and fig tree,’ declares the Lord Almighty.”